Take the Relational Desire Score® assessment and get practical recommendations to help you build a stronger, more connected relationship
5 Minutes
Quick and easy to complete online on any device.
Clinical Expertise
Research-informed and grounded in clinical work with 700+ couples
Personalized Insights
Understand your relationship style with clarity and next steps.
You may be in the same relationship, but you may not experience it the same way.
Take the assessment individually, then compare your results to uncover where your experiences align, and where they differ.
PARTNER A
91
ACTIVE
Desire is alive and mutual. Feels connected and engaged.
18-POINT
DIFFERENCE
You experience the same relationship differently. Your results show opportunities for greater understanding and connection.
PARTNER B
73
PRESENT
Desire shows up sometimes, with a solid foundation to build on.
Relational desire is low or nonexistent. You may feel disconnected or like roommates.
Distance like this can be reversed.
Desire is inconsistent or one-sided. You may feel stuck in routines.
Small shifts can lead to big change.
Desire shows up sometimes. You have a foundation to build on.
Consistency and connection are key.
Desire is alive and mutual. You’re connected and engaged.
Keep investing to maintain the connection.
Desire is vibrant, spontaneous, and deep. You’re thriving together.
Celebrate and continue evolving.
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Answer 25 questions about your connection and relationship dynamics.
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See your Relational Desire Score™ and compare it with your partner’s results.
3
Receive insights and a reading guide to the The Formula of Desire.
“The Relational Desire Score gave us a shared language for what we both value. It helped us feel closer, more connected and intentional about our relationship.”
– Jaime & Alex
RESEARCH-INFORMED
Grounded in relationship research and created by Dr. Anna Elton, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and clinical sexologist.
The Formula of Desire takes your result further, turning it into exercises and conversations you can use with your partner.
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5 minutes • 25 questions • Personalized insights
