Clinical Sexologist · Licensed MFT · Author of The Formula of Desire — bringing science, story, and real insight to conversations about love, desire, and connection.
What Brings Us Together, Drives Us Apart and the Science Behind It
The Formula of Desire reframes how modern readers understand attraction, longing, and relational connection by explaining desire as a dynamic, psychological, and relational force rather than a fixed personal trait. The book blends neuroscience, relationship science, philosophy, attachment theory, and clinical insight to show that desire is not something people “lose,” but something that shifts, adapts, and responds to emotional safety, identity roles, attention, conflict patterns, and the realities of long-term partnership.
At the heart of the book is The Formula of Relational Desire, a clear, accessible framework that helps individuals and couples locate where desire thrives or fades. The book dismantles cultural myths about passion, normalizes fluctuating desire, and gives readers a structured way to understand why desire rises, dips, and transforms across the lifespan.
Relational Desire Score: A quick, trackable measure of the health of your relationship across five key domains.
Wave of Desire: A five-phase model showing how desire evolves over time.
Three Selves: A lens for understanding how the Me, We, and Family personas compete or align within a relationship.
Currency of Desire: An assessment outlining the six currencies of desire and how you express them, experience them, and interact with your partner’s desires.
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Author Platform & Reach
Dr. Elton hosts Life, Love, Etc., a relationship-focused show, and maintains a significant and engaged digital presence across multiple channels, providing a strong platform for book promotion.
100,000+
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Facebook Followers
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Facebook Followers
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PsychologyToday Article Views
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MSTI Alumni / Extended Reach
110,000+
UMass Boston Alumni Network
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